I used to say: "have no expectations and you will not have any disappointments". I probably said that because I had some disappointments myself and thought having no expectations was a good concept to avoid future pain and sadness, but my walk of life changed my view point to the exact opposite.
Imagine a life where you try to avoid all disappointments. You would always eat in the same restaurant and you would order the same dishes you know you like. You would spend your vacations each year in the same manner. You have the same daily schedule to prevent any unexpected events. You avoid making new friends because new friends means trusting them that they never disappoint you.
A life based on avoiding disappointment is a very safe life with no room for unexpected things. If you lead such a life, you become a creature of habit where everything becomes very predictable.
Now you might think I exaggerate to make a point, but I'm sure you know people who lead their lives similar to what I described. Living a life without expectations creates only a false sense of safety, as life tends to throw us unexpected things, but more importantly it will cut us short from the best things life has to offer.
So yes disappointments can be painful, but if you want to live your life to the fullest you need to live boldly with great expectations.Will you get all the things you expect? Maybe not, but that's okay if you learn to be content with what you get and what you have. Earl Nightingale known as the 'Dean of Personal Development' said: "Expect more good out of life than bad. Expect to succeed more often than you fail, and you will".
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